If over 30 million women
through menopause, think of
what the men are going through!
the makers of Oöna:
An all natural and reliable approach to menopause, Oöna,
an herbal supplement, works to alleviate symptoms such as
hot flashes, mild depression, sleep disturbances, breast tenderness,
mood swings, night sweats, occasional tension/nervousness
Otto, founder of Becoming, Inc. says, “Menopause
is not what it used to be. Women are approaching this
time of life differently – the new outlook is energized
as most women are healthy and become free of many past identities
and responsibilities. A natural option like Oöna
is one I know many women will find valuable in dealing with
the bothersome symptoms at this time and I’m hoping
to see more women incorporate another valuable and natural
ally crucial in making this next stage truly exciting -- our
men! But we can’t do it alone. So based on our
completely unscientific research, here are tips I hope our
better half will find
Be ready for
This doesn’t require dialing 911, but you still
have to move fast. Sometimes the symptoms of menopause
may require your loved one to exit quickly. Don’t
ask questions at the time, there is nothing worse than
having to explain yourself in these situations--she’ll
be sure to tell you later. Just do what she says and move
out of the way.
in her heels. Imaginewhat it would be like to
potentially go through times of sleepless nights, hot
flashes, sweats, and possible memory loss. Are you
going to be in a great mood all the time? I don’t
think so. Think of what this would do to any one’s
psyche. And yes, there are options available to
her to help with this, including natural ones like Oona
and flowers (no carnations).
is not falling apart. Although you should
be ready for a fundamental change. For a period
of time, your spouse may seem, well, “not like herself”.
This may be demonstrated in any number of ways.
She may seem more needy, more vocal, more stubborn, and
more emotional. Do not discount this experience. Big tip,
men, embrace her, understand that
this roller coaster “shall pass” and use it
as an opportunity to bring you closer. If you listen,
you will be able to sort through what is important to
your relationship and open up a healthy discussion.
Sex? It still
exists. Just don’t panic. While her sex
drive may dip a bit, it doesn’t have to be dormant.
Now there are many ways to deal with it. Be resourceful,
be creative, keep it fun, and don’t be judgmental
or rush to conclusions.
just pause, stop—look at your life. Just like she
is doing. Menopause is a time where a
woman really takes a look at her life and her health –
not only because she feels her body changing. It
isn’t a bad idea for you either. Use it as
an incentive to add some “newness” to your
life -- like getting in shape for a long bike trip
or make a habit of taking long morning or evening walks.
be a smart ass…Educate
yourself, do some research, read some books, go on line.
Impress her with the new lingo.Just
think how impressed your partner would be if you knew
that the reason she was having hot flashes is most likely
because her LH levels are high. Her
mood swings can be managed. But can yours? For her, there’s
natural products out there but for you…find some!
The Big “M”—do
men go through menopause too? In a way, YES!
Actually it’s called “andropause”, and
while it happens more gradually than it does with women
it is defined as a decrease in male hormones. In
his book, "Male Menopause," author, Jed Diamond
said the phase "begins with hormonal, physiological
and chemical changes that occur in all men generally between
the ages of 40 and 55, though it can occur as early as
35 or as late as 65. Common symptoms of male menopause,
according to Diamond, include needing longer to recover
from injuries and illness, less endurance for physical
activity, weight gain, thinning hair, sleep disturbances,
irritability, and reduced interest in sex.. SO don’t
be so judgmental!
The kids, we hope have moved out. It all seems
to be happening at the same time. And while most
of us, both men and women, look forward to our freedoms
sans kids; it’s still an enormous adjustment.
Can our kids survive without us? Can I survive Menopause?
The answer is to pull it together and turn this into a
time to experience a new beginning.
Duck and Cover!
That means pass her off to her friends. This is a
great time to encourage her to seek out women’s
groups, new relationships and old friends going through
the same thing. Let them take over the kitchen,
the couch and the TV. You’ll be much happier
in the morning.
Keep your sense
of humor It’s not nice to say but a lot
of the experiences in menopause can be funny… if
not at the moment, certainly a week or a month later.
If you can make her laugh and see the lighter side, know
you are doing your part in setting the course for a beautiful
sunset together. She won’t laugh if it’s insincere.
Otto has long been involved
in issues of women’s health and well-being. In
1995, she founded Becoming, Inc., a mail order fashion house
that answers the specific needs of women who’ve undergone
cancer treatment. Becoming, Inc. is now the largest
mail order company of its kind in America. Oöna, her
new venture offers a natural alternative to hormonal replacement
therapy for women experiencing menopause.